Have you been at each other’s throats already?

OR

Are you still enjoying all the extra time you get to spend with each other?

I’ve never even imagined such a challenging time like this coming for all of us to experience…YET!

I truly believe it gives us the best opportunity to reflect on our lives deeply and what goes with that – our relationships!

And as they say… how you do sex is how you do life…

Have you heard that?

There are 3 stages of consciousness in your RELATIONSHIPS and SEX

Stage 1 – CODEPENDENCE – where male energy plays out the macho alpha style role and the female energy perceives itself as weak and dependent

It’s here that very often you feel stuck and not like ‘yourself’ yet your socially conditioned perceptions keep you STUCK in your role as you just don’t know any different. Sex will often feel forced and staged, not much excitement, more obligation…

Stage 2 – INDEPENDENCE – where male dominant energy explores it’s feminine aspects and the female dominant energy explores it’s masculine aspects, we become independent of each other, we feel like we learn to BALANCE our energies within ourselves yet we still get together as we purely enjoy the opposite energy in our space

It’s here that sex often is no longer on the cards in any way shape or form as to enjoy an intimate and sensual experience we require the polarity arc to be created between the dominant masculine purpose and dominant feminine flow coming together… That’s not the case here in stage 2 very often!

Stage 3 – INTERDEPENDENCE – a beautiful dance of the two energies coming together KNOWING their own UNIQUENESS, their own STRENGTH and POWER.

It’s here where we beautifully come together and intuitively FEEL each other’s needs and desires. We communicate consciously. We have the presence of strong, purposeful masculine that creates the container that is required for the conscious feminine to fill up with it’s flow as it trusts and surrenders

It is also here where a sexual act is no longer an act of fulfilling out physical desires only, it’s Synchronistic Energy Xchange where we surrender to following our highest excitement and we KNOW that we’re always lived by a greater force than us ourselves and we allow ourselves to be GUIDED!

It is HERE where you begin to create your TRULY UNLIMITED LIFE!!

Back in 2016, 4 years ago now, I was very much in the trenches of exploring this myself and learning why and how my relationships across my entire life worked out the way they did

3 years ago I run 2 epic training sessions one for the guys and one for the ladeez

Both were over 3 hours long

We talked sex, expression, sexuality and desires

And how masculine/feminine affect our relationships, business, health and day to day life

A couple of years ago I run an amazing Sexy Masterclass with the one and only Caroline D’Arcy

Where we explored all of the above again with an amazing group of curious ladies

Over the last few weeks I’ve been talking about it a lot again with clients

And today this post popped up as a memory…

Perfect timing (of course!) in times like these

Sexuality, our expression, feminine and masculine energies that we’re acting out of

The understanding of our desires

What turns us on and off as humans and why

Is very often an overlooked yet IMPERATIVE part of living the life we desire

Or

Not…

It’s the people I’ve worked with that opened up and started speaking up about what previously might have been labelled taboo or inappropriate

It’s those that learnt to express their desires in all aspects of their life

It’s those that took responsibility

That are now living the life of emotional freedom and unlimited possibilities

And that doesn’t mean that everything is always ‘perfect’

It’s about their interpretation of circumstances and situations they face

It’s about their attitude towards it

As remember guys

It is always and in all ways

Your ATTITUDE that creates your OUTCOME and not the CIRCUMSTANCES

(even more so when you’re locked down and have no idea how long it’s all going to last!!)

M x

Are you so focused on where you are and why you are there that you forget where it is that you’re actually going?

I had a moment a few years back during a giant layover in Madrid, you know when the penny drops and it takes you back for a moment?

Yeah one of those…

And back then I realised that my life got way easier and more effortless when I stopped focusing so much on why I was in that moment and actually directed my attention (and intention) to my inner world and next step that felt good and exciting

And again, like with everything else that spans across the whole spectrum

From business to health, from personal passions to my relationships with my loved ones.

To give you an example that will bring it home for you…

BUSINESS wise, think for example about wanting to fill up your program and bring in new clients to your world

My old train of thought used to go something like this:

‘Why have we only got X number people on this program and not Y? What have we NOT done. What we do must not be working… Etc. Etc.’

Right now it goes something like this (new train ):

‘Oh, we have X number of spaces left, that’s awesome, have we got anyone in mind this opportunity will serve epically?’

‘Who would we like to invite into this experience with us’

HEALTH wise:

Old train of thought would have been:

‘FFS my gut is playing up, I’m not feeling great, what again?

‘This would have usually unravelled into an infection of some sort or another ‘thing’ that I felt I had to deal with as my body was fucking me up.

New train of thought is more like:

‘Oh hey body, you’re communicating with me. Thank you! Let me tune in to see what’s up. Your gut is not feeling that great, alright (quick analysis of the run up events to such symptoms, i.e. travelling, more stress than usual etc.). Thank you body for letting me know, here’s what we’re doing NOW to assist’ – issues gone within hours

PERSONAL PASSIONS:

Old train after a while of doing something and getting quite good at it and then having a little bleep:

‘Oh fucking hell, I suck at this, I can never get it right. What a load of bollocks this is. I’m useless. I should probably just fuck it all off and give up…’

New train :

‘Oh hey challenge! Cool, thanks for showing up. What are you here for? Directing me elsewhere or inspiring to keep going?’

And last but not least

RELATIONSHIPS:

Good old train would have always sent me down the path of feeling unworthy, rejected and to be honest fucking useless as a human. Whenever anything showed up like Cliff being in a funny mood, us having a heated up dispute etc. etc.

The epic new train that I’ve upgraded the old one to always goes internal and asks how I am feeling and who is it that’s actually speaking in that moment.

And guess what, 100% of the time it’s my little girl remembering some bullshit story from way way back that she made her truth and all it takes for me is to have a little chat with her and reassure her that she’s always loved, looked after and taken care of by ME first!

Everything else (aka external confirmations of love) just reflect back at me effortlessly then as I can only see outside what is first within me.

Can you see how my inner dialogue changed significantly from playing the victim

From being delusional and releasing my inner responsibility for ME and my creation, hoping somebody out there will save me

To being the conscious creator taking responsibility for what shows up in front of me

I got to the point where what I insisted on just continued to NOT FUCKING WORK and I could have either continued this game of insanity or chose something different and changed my ways in order to achieve a different result…

When there was nowhere else to run I did the latter

And as you can’t ever argue with the results in front of you

My life got a hell of a lot easier

And so much more FUN as everything is just a curious game of self exploration

Even the shittiest and darkest moments that still do come, that stuff never ceases to exist

As we’re all a totality of both darkness and light

You don’t ever argue with the fact it is night time…It is what it is right?

So when the night time falls in your own life and personal circumstances

What you do is PAY FUCKING ATTENTIONTUNE IN, FEEL IT and LISTEN UP to what it’s got in store for you

As the sun will always rise up again and again

The cycle will continue whether you like it or not

And it’s up to you to flow with it or resist it

But you KNOW (and I know you do!) that the night seems to last so much longer when you spend your dark hours in fear, playing the victim and asking ‘why me?’

Rather than put the freaking light on and look under the bed and see there really are no boogeymen and monsters in there

They’ve all been created in the powerful realms of your mind

So harness that gift and change your inner dialogue!

Start now!

As tomorrow never comes!

With love and nothing else

M x