One thing people always say to me, whether I’m coaching life or business is that they want to be ‘free’.

And I’m sure FREE is important to you too. It is me.

Yet our definitions and conditions, we place on freedom is the exact reason we don’t experience it.

For me I used to think that I would be free when I had the ‘money’.

Then when I had the money, it was the ‘body’

Then when I had that it was of course something else.

I never seemed to feel completely free in all areas.

So here’s why, I was so INVESTED in the past that I couldn’t possibly have my Unlimited Life.

There was still the ‘yeah but you failed at that…’, ’Yeah, that wasn’t a nice thing to do..’, ‘You just are not the right person’

My mind was running for old stories to validate my present.

We all do it.

When I become fully free it was because I truly let go of the past.

Now this isn’t a ‘hey you need to spend your time in the past thing’

Yet I know because I fully faced all the energy of the past I can and AM indeed free.

It has created so much space within me for the important things in life.

Not money, even though I have it.

Not the body, even though I have it.

Not the soul mate wife, even though I have one.

You know the freedom I have is internal.

It’s a lightness that makes decisions EASY! And because it feels easy, life shows up that way.

Inspiration flows through me and I act on it without past thoughts and feelings of how the results will unfold.

You will have ‘infinite’ time when stop thinking so much about the PAST

Science shows us the more sustained our stress is the more we…

• Make poor decisions-reduce memory

• Affect sleep quality

• Reduce empathy for another

• Become more selfish

This is to name a few of a long list.

When I talk about sustained stress I’m of course not talking the ‘temporary’ out of control feeling that you get on a roller coaster.

Stress can be measured on how out of ‘control’ you feel and the associated risk attached.

So a rollercoaster hits both lack of control and slight risk but many find it FUN.

Yet, financial struggle in a struggling economy shoots many people off the scale of stress and how sustained it is.

When I work with professionals and clients I always want them to understand that we as humans have amazing abilities yet sustained stress makes us dumb.

Literally.

As with anything, the body will re-regulate, so if you have sustained stress over a long period you don’t just suffer the effect of the ‘event’, it’s affects the pathways in the body.

Some key areas would be lack of drive or contentment for life

Lowered sexual function and drive

Depression due to over stimulation of neurotransmitter pathways.

Again, just to name a few!

People try all sorts to combat stress but what we do most often which is kind of depressing is ‘project’ our stress on another.

As Dr R.Salposky said “We’d rather give another an ulcer than have our own’.

Stress over a long period doesn’t just contribute to every metabolic illness, it pushes away the people that you care about.

People think meditation or exercise is enough, yet look at stress rates, they just rise and rise.

I believe one of the key things we are missing is understanding of WHY we respond to stress in the way we do.

Whether Marta and I deal with corporate clients, pro athletes or professionals we always want them to understand their BEHAVIOUR and its triggers.

You don’t actually make a choice on behaviour in the moment, that’s just neurotransmitters firing,

You don’t even make it a few hours to days before, that’s just hormonal pathways…

Our behaviours around stress are patterned long before we can imagine.

Thus, simple ‘habit’ change work like ‘morning routine’ without letting someone know why they will likely give up is in my opinion fruitless.

When you can understand behaviours and what contributes to them, you take back power.

More importantly you can contextualise fear.

See it differently and EXPERIENCE it differently.